I stood up my first Bumble date. I just couldn’t go through with it- he was on vacation in dirty Jerz and lives across the country which means I would definatly not be seeing him again.
Yes I created the #50firstdateschallenge to put myself out there, meet new people, and see what online dating was like BUT I think there are some boundaries- like going on a date with someone who I would never be able to see again. I mean I would like to think that at least one of these dates would go farther than just an initial get together? The point of this is to see how online dating works and to determine whether or not it is effective- and something I should have mentioned earlier: I do think that someone can find love through online dating but I can’t say it’s possible until I’ve done my own field work.
So, I’m back to square one. Which is okay, I didn’t expect to be going on a date every night anyways, and from being on Bumble and Tinder for the past couple weeks I’ve been able to pick up on patterns and can already say that online dating is harder than it looks.
Side-note --> I just need to say that the stereotype of Tinder is spot on. Almost every guy I talk to just wants to “have fun” and hook up. They most likely swipe right to every girl when they’re bored without even seeing what they actually look like (considering I matched with my ex’s best friend as a joke, but I don’t think he had realized he swiped me LOL).
I thought I was going to begin this challenge discussing dates and how well they or not well they were going, etc, etc BUT it seems that I need to go back to the basics, which is why my next couple posts will be able how to online date: what you should and shouldn’t add to your profile, and what to message the guy (since I’m on Bumble girls have to message the guys first). You must lay down the foundation to become successful…I think…STAY TUNED!