If you aren't on the Ed Sheeran bandwagon, you should probably hop on ASAP. His new songs including, “Castle on the Hill” and “Shape of You” that will be featured on his forthcoming album debuting in March are already topping the charts! I’m not even going to lie, I’ve had “Shape of You” on repeat at work since the single came out- it gets me so motivated! He is a god.
So why am I telling you this? Well, if you have listened to “Shape of You” you’d know that the beginning lyrics are about picking someone up at a bar/club. If you have no idea what I’m talking about see the lyrics below:
The club isn’t the best place to find a lover
So the bar is where I go
Me and my friends at the table doing shots
Drinking faster and then we talk slow
Come over and start up a conversation with just me
It got me thinking…is it better to meet someone at a bar? It is easier? How come the club isn’t the best place to find a lover? Do people actually meet significant others in person anymore?! AH!
In my experience I have never met someone serious at a club. There hasn’t been a single time where a man introduced himself to me at a club; they’ve usually come up behind me while I’m dancing and put their arms around my waist. (Classy right?)
Primer Magazine came out with an article titled, “You’re Never Going to Meet Your Future Spouse at a Bar” If you look at the article, it seems to define a bars atmosphere more similar to a club than a regular bar. When you’re in a dark setting, intoxicated with loud music playing- odds are you’re not going to find your soul mate, you’ll be on track to find a hookup for the night.
So maybe Ed is right?! Girls (and guys): maybe we’re fooling ourselves. Maybe if you’re serious about finding a significant other, going out isn’t the best way. Here is how I see it:
Like I pretty much just mentioned, a club is just for hookups. Of course anyone can go to a club without wanting to look for someone- hell I used to go to clubs with my ex all the time! But if you’re serious about finding someone meaningful, and someone that will last you more than just that night, then the club scene probably isn’t for you.
This is like so 50/50. You never know how it could play out. Some bars have very dark lighting and loud music playing, and if that’s the case it’s probably going to be more difficult to find someone worthy. Although it’s probably a more relaxed setting, you’re not going to be able to have a quality conversation with anyone if the music is super loud. With that being said, I believe a bar is somewhere you could, “find a lover” because social settings are always a lot easier when you have your friends around you and you get a drink or two in you that will definatly loosen you up to make it easier to approach someone.
Depending on the app, I still believe you can find someone…still doing my research on this one, but I really believe it’s a lot easier and a lot faster to find out more about someone than in person. You can quickly cut to the chase to see- are they possibly a good match, are they crazy, or are they just looking for sex?
Maybe Ed’s next new songs will give us a little more insight on how to survive the dating world...but then again he's been quoted saying his love life is non-existent, so we'll just say TBD for this one.