** For the non-dating daters AKA the middle between casual hang out buddies and relationship status AKA dating in your 20's
Dating is super difficult in your 20's. No one actually wants to commit, people will ghost you and then reappear months later acting as if nothing ever happened. It's the unfortunate truth, but guess what- guys aren't the only ones who can do this. Ladies are just as justified to play this game.
A lot of the times you may not be looking for a relationship, but you go on dating sites and track people down and start talking to them anyway. This is okay, but only as long as you handle it the proper way, meaning don't ghost them (unless they're a total jerk then yes GHOST AWAY!) But majority of the time you may kind of like the guy but want to keep your options open so you don't want to turn them away completely but they need to understand you don't want a relationship right now.
Here's the thing, the truth is you can't tell the truth. Yes I am aware this is so f***ed p but it's sometimes necessary. Keep things platonic. Sometimes it's okay to have Plan B, or C, D, E....
Here are my instructions on how to lose a guy in 10 days ...Uh I mean how to properly turn down a guy:
Don't be an asshole unless they're being an asshole- then all bets are off.
Cultivate your excuse. Such as,
"I'm just not ready for a relationship" or "I'm still not over my ex"
If the guy has been nice to you try to let them down gently. Sometimes the truth can be a little extreme so if you don't want to hurt their feelings then create a reason that's a little lighter. If they're being a jerk then please go and tell them that they're a fat slob so that's why you don't want to be with them.
Find the best time to do it. Please don't be like me and all of a sudden freak out on the guy while you're hanging out and then just storm off. Try to have it planned out. Create a script so you don't go and either hook up with them after you try to break things off or start a fight with the person. If you don't want to meet up with the guy then text them. Yes, if you aren't actually dating then this is acceptable. Just try to be friendly about it. Keep it light and sincere (so you're keeping this option open in the future). DO NOT START A TEXT WAR. I promise the guy will win. They always win.
Don't text them again once turning them down. Literally the worst thing you can do is try to talk to them again after ending things. Don't even snapchat them! They will assume you're still interested. There is a reason why you broke things off the begin with so by awakening the beast you'll eventually have to break things off AGAIN! And believe me it does not get easier the second time.