Coming Off Flirty VS. Coming Off DTF

Two things you must know about my dating habits:

1.       I am horrible at texting

2.       I have no self-control

My communications skills pre-meeting someone are not good and definatly not my strong area as the dating game goes. Sometimes it’s hard to continue a conversation when you’re unsure of what to say and how it will come across via text. This is especially true when it comes to online dating- how do you keep the momentum going?

So yeah, I know I need work in this department. BUT what makes it even worse (and mind you this is something I didn’t even know I had a problem with until like 4 days ago) is that I don’t know how to talk to a guy I’m SUPER physically attracted to. This has never been a problem for me because honestly I’m pretty sure my sex drive is low, or just not a priority – and because I usually go for people who well maybe I’m just not super attracted to? Also, in the past few months I haven’t had as much of a momentum to go venturing on new dates because now that I have a new job I’m super tired all the time and also the “child” AKA my ex has still been in my life…clearly I can’t juggle too much at one time lol.

Which leads me to where I am now, because since my ex went MIA on me AGAIN, I decided to venture out and actually try to pursue guys who I had been holding off on- so I went on a date! Needless to say, it went extremely well, which puts me in the predicament I’m in now…

Things got super-heated in the moment and while I REALLY wanted to hook up with him, I didn’t. I’d rather take my time with someone who I think has potential for more than a hook up. But now, I can’t stop thinking about him, well really just thinking of him being on top of me (sorry to the fam who is reading this) and it’s like all of a sudden I have no self-control. None. I bring it up to him any possible chance I can, I hint at how I want more, sometimes I use wink faces- I AM A FUCK BOY. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME

I’m attracted to him but I’m also interested in him (at least so far I am) so I’m afraid this might ruin everything. I want to come off like I’m interested but I also don’t want to come off too desperate or only wanting a hook up.

FYI- normally, my posts are about giving relationship advice, but this time I DON’T HAVE ANY

So while I’m complaining about me coming off too sexual to a guy I might possibly be interested in, ironically it hasn’t pushed him away yet- but I can’t tell if it’s because he's just DTF and likes my comments toward him or he's just genuinely interested. 

I know for a fact that other women have this same issue- the first few weeks of a new fling are the most crucial to knowing whether or not you want to keep seeing them. First impressions are everything and while he still seems interested, now I can’t tell if I’ve given off the DTF vibes which is why he is still talking to me or if he actually finds it flirty and cute and is actually interested. It’s a complete toss up right now- like a basketball game that’s at 80 points/78 points – I have no idea who is going to win!

So as you can see this is a…


I will deff have some sort of update for you after I see him again. It’s either going to be really good or really bad LOL. Either way I think it will be a learning experience to see how far it too far when it comes to flirty texts. Obviously when you’re in a relationship it’s not that big of a deal- it’s actually probably better to be flirty texting to keep the fun going, but when you’re just still talking to someone there might be a line that can be crossed when it comes to this topic of conversation.

Stay tuned!