Millennial Words: Ghosting

We live in a world where if you’re not interested in someone instead of telling them and moving on, you just leave them hanging without saying a word.

I think out of all of the dating rituals that the 21st century has brought, this is the WORST.

So what exactly is “ghosting”?

Ghosting is an expression used in dating terms and it's when someone suddenly cuts all ties and communication with the person they've been seeing. The theory behind ghosting is that the person who is being ignored will just 'get the hint' and realize their partner is not interested in dating anymore so the subject should be left. Anyone can be a ghoster, it's not specific to either gender, but people sometimes find the behavior is related to a person's maturity and communication skills.

Many believe that ghosting is actually better for the person they're ignoring because they aren't hurting their feelings by telling them they don't want to date anymore….which is obviously WRONG. Not only does this leave the other person confused and upset, some people go into a stalking rage. Some people, who have a harder time with dating, may have a harder time getting the hint. They’ll continue to text the person, stalk them via social media and continue to think they have a chance, when in reality the ghoster has moved on to their next victim.

My advice to the ghostee:

If you don’t hear from he/she within a week since you last saw them or talked to them, they’re not worth your time. If they were really interested in you they would have reached out already. And for anyone who responds to you a month later acting like nothing happened – is a playaaaa!!!! You shouldn’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t give you the time of day. Plus if you haven’t heard from them in a while, odds are they’ve already moved on.

My advice to the ghoster:

Honestly, don’t be an asshole. If you’re unsure about how you feel about them just tell them that. I get it, I’ve been in the position where I was talking to someone, but I still wanted to be talking to other people so I’d just keep that person as Plan B. It’s not right, but that’s why you let them know that you’re not ready for something serious. Even if that may not be the case, it’s better to let them know SOMETHING than NOTHING.