Dont Bumble My Tinder

After a recent breakup, having been with someone for two years and now suddenly having to put myself back into first gear, I decided to do some research on “how to be single”. Yes, I did just say that. Being single is not easy, especially with modern technology. There are a few things that I’ve learned in the past two months and an idea I am going to propose to everyone reading…

[And if you were wondering, yes I did watch How to be Single that may or may not have triggered my big idea]

 

 

Don’t Fall Back in with the Black Hole-Boys

 

·      I think the minute I changed my Facebook status to Single every guy I talked to pre-Tyler blew up my phone. Here is the blunt truth that I wish I had listened to before: THERE IS A REASON WHY THINGS DIDN’T WORK OUT THE FIRST TIME. There are these…boys (for lack of a better word) that you talk to, maybe not everyday but here and there- they flirt with you, ask you to hang out, always liking your pictures, probably have known them for a very long time {#BGWHAT} but you never date them. Why? Because they live in the black hole called the “I’m bored, you’re bored, lets hook up” world. The worst thing you can do after a breakup is get with one of these black hole-boys. Feeling lonely sucks, like really sucks, but thinking that if you go and hook up with one of these guys you’ll feel better - you’ll actually feel worse, because after you hook up, you still have to shame walk back home by yourself in your bed, by yourself, and I can almost guarantee you won’t be getting a text from the guy for a least a couple days. There is a reason why you never dated one of these guys and it’s because they don’t want to date you, and you don’t want to date them- they are your safety net...CUT YOURSELF LOOSE! 

 

Do You, to be the Best You

·      The most important thing I’ve learned in the short amount of time I’ve been single is that having time to yourself is so unbelievably amazing. A man is a great accessory, but you don’t need them to survive. When you have no one else to think about but yourself you can focus on so much more, like starting a blog or losing weight (hint hint). Sometimes you can lose yourself when you have a significant other, which I’m not going to say is always a bad thing. Having such passion and support to make your partner happy is a great thing, but sometimes you get so caught up in their world that you forget what makes you happy. Something as simple as a walk around your neighborhood after work one day could spark something inside of you, motivating you to begin that thing you’ve been wanting to do for awhile now and just never had the time before. Advice for my fellow 20-somethings: #LIVE ! 

 

It's Going Down, I'm Yelling Tinder!

·      I have no idea if dating sites work. Yes, there are many people who find their soul mates on a dating site, but are they usually 22? Probably not. More than half of the guys my age are just looking to have fun, and swipe every girl right because they’re bored…and believe me I know, my ex was doing it while I was dating him.  ANYWAY, being single can be a really great thing, but if you find yourself not being able to pick up a guy at a bar- maybe you’re looking in the wrong place. Online dating could be a way to meet a guy- I know I’m being contradictory but sometimes expanding your horizons is a good thing. I don’t need to warn you about modern technology because many of you are very smart and know that people are sometimes not who they seem to be, but in my honest opinion it’s worth a shot. #YOLO 

 

THE BIG IDEA: 50 First Dates

I have been told that I have a “type” and that I’m too picky when it comes to men, so I’ve decided to start my own fieldwork related to online dating. I don’t know how to online date, hell, I don’t know how to date in general so I’m going to put myself out there. I’m going to go on 50 dates by…goal is the end of the year (might be longer), with 50 different men that I either have met through an online dating site (Bumble or Tinder) or from a friend of a friend, someone at a bar- whatever the case may be, just someone I do not know now. I don’t know what I want, just as many other 20-somethings don’t know what they want, so maybe by putting myself out there “playing the field”, if you may, maybe I can learn what I like and what I don’t and show all my lovely viewers what my experience was like.  Along the way I plan to post about where I’ve gone on the dates, how I met them, how online dating is going, and what I got out of it.  It’s like the Julie & Julia of dating….except there’s just a Jenn. {lol} 

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