Texting is the hardest way to get to know someone which makes online dating extra difficult. You can’t really get an idea of who the person really is unless you meet them face-to-face. You can go stalking them via social media, trying to see what kind of person they may be but the reality is that social media isn’t reality! They could be catfishing you at every angle and you have no idea.
With that being said, making the approach to try to meet someone in person you just started talking to online may come off SUPER creepy so you may have to message them for a few days and try to get to know them a little before meeting up.
What I’ve noticed while being on online dating sites is that THE BEGINNING OF THE INTERACTION TELLS EVERYTHING ABOUT THEM. Guys are very predictable, they’ll tell you how they feel by getting to the point without beating around the bush whatsoever. Most of the guys don’t add anything to their profile to help you figure out what they’re looking for, but I promise they won’t let you forget what they want once you’ve started talking to them. It’s very simple, you either have the average guy who is obviously on there because they’re looking for a girl because they’re sick of being alone and are having problems find girls in traditional settings, or they’re just looking for a hook up (i.e. they’re either cheating on their girlfriend, just got dumped or just like being single and are looking for a good fuck).
(Exhale with long winded breathe)
Below are two legit screen shots of conversations I’ve had with two different guys. This is so legit but I’m pretty sure the guys will never see my blog so the secrets safe with all you readers.
This one is easier than you may think- he doesn’t use any pickup lines, doesn’t act sarcastic, and he’s asking me questions so it shows he’s interested! Mr. McDreamy, if I may, is able to hold a conversation by contributing to it; talking about himself as well as ask me questions to get to know me better, helps me safely conclude that he is not just looking to hook up, because anyone who just wants to smash wouldn’t be so interested in my day-to-day life.
Although Mr. McDreamy shows the potential for boyfriend material with his witty ways besides being extremely gorgeous, not every match is going to be your soul mate (but that conversation is for another blog post).
Literally the third thing he says to me is “Come hang out with me” …need I say more?! Literally I have no idea who DJ Fuckboy is and within minutes he’s already asking me to hang out, and I don’t think he just wants to watch Netflix with me on a rainy day…
Any guy just looking to hook up is not going to waste time with initiating the deal. I don’t even think they care if they come off creepy, or maybe they don’t realize, but if a guy starts off the conversation asking to hang out, using a pick-up line or even just totallyunengaged in what you’re saying they either are not very interested in you or they’re just looking for a hook up. The only other excuse is that they have absolutely no game, but I’m pretty sure any guy who’s stuck their junk in a girl at least once in their life is able to start a conversation and not sound like a jackass.
In a nutshell, watch out for the dead giveaways, literally- the DEAD GIVEAWAYS, it’s not rocket science. Don’t keep talking to the DJ Fuckboy's when you know they’ll never be the Mr. McDreamy’s- guys won’t change for a pretty girl. Leading them on makes you just as bad as them. And, for those potentials, DON’T FUCK SHIT UP...that’s all.